Beyond Over-Giving: Restoring the Flow of True Abundance

When I was first invited to explore the shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset, I’ll be honest: I felt like a bit of an outsider. I have always lived an abundant life. My parents provided the essentials, I received an education, and worked in a role that was supportive emotionally and financially; I never knew the heavy weight of material lack. In my mind, I didn't have a "scarcity problem."

But as I first sat in the global women’s circle I have been participating in for serveral years now, I realized I was looking at a map that was far too small. I was looking at money and material wealth, but abundance is a much larger landscape. It is about Beauty, Harmony, Generosity, and Right Relationship.

And it was in that circle that I had to face my own hidden scarcity: the imbalance of my giving.

I've been a Perpetual Giver...and though I love that about myself, I realized I might have been creating an imbalance in the cycle.

For most of my life, I was the perpetual Giver. I took pride in it. I was the one who showed up, the one who held space, the one who provided. But I eventually learned that "over-giving" is often just a sophisticated way of staying in control. If I am always the one giving, I never have to be vulnerable enough to need anything. Can anyone relate?

The universe eventually decided I needed a harder lesson in reciprocity.

When I was diagnosed with cancer, my identity as the "Doer" and the "Provider" was stripped away overnight. I was forced to soften. I had to be the receiver of care, attention, and love- not because I had earned it through effort, but simply because I existed. I remember my best friend needing to practically scold me- telling me to relax and allow her, and my other loved ones, to care for me.

Even now, years later, that lesson continues in my women’s circle. There are moments when the structure of the circle requires me to be held at the center- to be the sole receiver of the group’s presence and prayer for a period of time.

I’ll tell you a secret: It is still incredibly difficult. In those moments, the old sensations of unworthiness or discomfort crawl up. I find myself wanting to deflect the attention, to "give" a compliment back, or to minimize my own needs. I wonder how many of us struggle with this? How many of us have a "receiving block" that we mistake for "being helpful"?

Joy in Receiving!

The Hard Truth: If there is discomfort in receiving, the cycle is not in balance. When we struggle to receive, we inadvertently block the very flow of abundance we claim to want. We stop the circulation.

I’ve realized that if I don't let others give to me, I am actually robbing them of their own opportunity for generosity. I am creating a spiritual "clot" in the flow of the community.

Wealth is not about chasing material things; it is about restoring the conditions where abundance naturally flows- with nature, with family, and with our circles of relationship.

It is about becoming a woman who can:

• Hold the fire of her own truth.

• Circulate her gifts without exhaustion.

• Receive love and support without guilt.

  
  

Today, I invite awareness to the imbalance. I am noticing. I am learning that my worthiness is not a paycheck for my hard work or my fatigue. It is a natural state of being. As I am receiving, I am giving the world the gift of my presence. And in that reciprocity, I finally find true abundance.

A Question for the Over-Givers (especially as women!): When you are offered help, care, or even a deep compliment, do you breathe it in- or do you immediately try to "pay it back"? What would happen if you just stayed in the center of the circle and let yourself be held?

Join us on May 17th for a Women’s Circle (in-person) This is our next 90-minute immersion. We will gather to dismantle the "scarcity contraction" in our bodies and practice the frequency of beauty, harmony, and radical reciprocity.

1-1 Coaching: We work together to sift through your "shoulds," remove the masks of over-efforting, navigate a deep transition, and find the power of speaking your truth without needing external validation. You are always welcome to a Complimentary Discovery Call!

With so much love,