The Heart: Boundaries, Love and Worth

The rose quartz, stone of unconditional love.

So we met yesterday for our Women’s Circle with the theme titled in this reflection, in honor of Valentine’s Day and the month that celebrates love. Together, we explored the idea of loving so deeply and expansively that we lose ourselves in the process. Those of us who say yes to everything and everyone. Those of us who feel like we are never doing enough to save the world. Over-givers, people pleasers, emotional caretakers. In our gorgeous multi-generational circle, many of us recognized ourselves in this, in one form or another.

So what is that? Why is that? Did we learn it? Is it a genetic or cultural tendency? Does society expect it of us? What is our ego reaching for when we engage this way? Does it work?

Do we feel valued and seen when we say yes to others? Do we feel expansive and fulfilled, or resentful and depleted? Are we met with gratitude and recognition, or taken for granted and left unseen?

We explored. Without judgment or shame. With honesty, tenderness, and even the ability to laugh at ourselves. We gently shone light on this love that grows so big it forgets to include us.

There was no fixing, forcing, or pushing. Just curiosity and compassion.

To support this exploration, we turned to the body. Through simple, seated somatic movements, we practiced noticing our boundaries from the inside out. As arms reached outward, each person chose where “enough” lived in their body. In gentle twists, we felt how we meet the world from our center, discovering where the body said yes and where it whispered not today. Hands returned to heart and belly, integrating what we felt. A reminder that boundaries are not rules to defend or explain, but information to listen to- kind, steady signals that help us stay connected to ourselves while in relationship.

The invitation was simply to notice. To develop awareness around how often we say yes to others versus ourselves. To notice where we say yes while meaning no. To explore how it feels when we extend ourselves beyond the boundaries we want to hold. And to explore the boundaries themselves, if we have them at all.

What we discovered is that it feels safer and easier to explore together than alone. Through journaling and sharing, we created a little space between the life we are living and the life we long to create. In that space, we remembered something important.

We have choice.

We can choose to redefine our boundaries and say no with clarity and love. And no does not have to mean forever. It can mean no this week. No today. No in this moment. We decide. Just as we decide our yes.

We closed the circle feeling empowered and curious about how this might continue to unfold. Without force. Just presence.

Below are a few questions for you to explore if you feel called. And remember, you do not have to do this alone. We can explore this and so much more in a 1-1 coaching container. We move at your pace, with care and honesty. You are not alone.

Reflection questions:

Where does my energy leak in relationships?

What do I do before someone even asks?

What did I learn early about love, safety, or being “good”?

What does a clean, grounded yes feel like in my body?

What does a quiet no feel like?

What does a yes that means no feel like in my body?

How can I reach outwardly, while staying close to my own heart?

This February, I’m offering a limited number of free clarity calls to help you reconnect with what you truly want (not just what you’ve been tolerating). Think of it as a little love note to yourself: space to sort the swirl, name what’s calling you, and get honest about what’s next. Applications accepted through February 28th- because self-love is the best Valentine. 💫

With so much embodied, boundaried love 😉